Judgement

I realise how I take longer time to respond in any conversation, before giving any opinion. I am listening twice more than I speak which is actually in quite the right order as we have twice the ability to listen compared to talking. The ‘life experiences” does create an impression on us afterall. We take a step back on any approach as we live because very few approach are too different than our past experiences, which increases as we live longer. We judge, we judge maturity through hair do’s, we judge established through dress code or the car they drive in and out of appointments and we judge likings through face expressions. In all this we think we have more up our sleeves as we live longer, as we age.
Should it all be this way? At a time when reminding ourselves to enjoy at every point is so important, should it be this way. Is this the wisdom we want to develop as we age? Listening more: yes, talking less: may be(it’s also important get our voice heard these days), judging: don’t think so. Though it might save us a lot of hassle in many cases, and understanding that too much of anything is never good, we have yet to explore this art of judging properly to know the extent of it’s use for goodness. I was deciding on a pair of shoes for myself yesterday when I found myself in between Cardin and Polo. I was looking for a replacement to my official shoes. Polo, the gentleman kind of official / casual look, compared to Cardin, the tribal, new age younger look which would certainly have been my choice if I was looking for a casual easy wear pair. It just just me, or the me I want to become and the latter that what people would expect for my type of official functions. How do I want others to judge me? Well the sizes didn’t match and I didn’t buy any, but that’s doesn’t solve anything. Following the crowd is easy, you’ll never be alone, always with an easy to find reference, be judged but not surprised with the judgement. But being different, not just for the sake of being different, but for the sake of being you, or at least towards being you…..always asked of everything, well they don’t understand so they ask, it’s not common hence little reference, did I say more freedom…..
As much as we would find these affirmations in the hidden in corner shelf’s of a bookstore or wrapped up among other books, amongst my friend’s book collection, do we remember the tricks and techniques when faced with one. For goodness sake, get a trick up your sleeves and respond with the magic, it might just give someone an idea.